I was
enjoying the shower of falling stars with my friends last night. As I was witnessing
the magical sky, my mind drifted off and my friend caught the single tear of
happiness at the corner of my eye. He gave me a hug and said: 'There's nothing
wrong with showing your tears, it shows that even Bao-Nhi is human'.
First of
all, I wasn't crying. It was a teardrop that didn't even had the chance to roll
down my cheek. Second of all, we all know that I'm human, because I have my
moments of stupidity like any other human being. However, I do get where my friend
is getting at. I'm not that type of person who cries in public. Only a few
people on this planet have ever seen me cry. Crying doesn't solve anything so I
personally just don’t see the point of it. Doing it in public only raises
unwanted advice of people at a moment when I'm totally not up for it. Every now
and then, I do let the waterfalls come when I'm with good friends, because I do
realise that sometimes it's good to let it out. This is just how I am and this
is my personal view on crying when it comes to myself.
This
doesn't mean that I see crying as a weakness or that I can't stand people who
cry, on the contrary. Crying is a beautiful emotion that can be expressed in
many different ways. I've been around for almost three decades and have witnessed
many stories behind a lot of different tears.
The
heartbroken tears are the tears that you shed when you believe that the love of
your life just walked out and you'll never love again. Then, you also have the
tears that you shed when you're in physical pain. The sad tears because something
in your life is not going right and the grieving tears when you're mourning a
loss.
Fortunately, there are tears of happiness as well.
There's nothing more beautiful to me then to see people, especially children
and youth, tearing up because of joy. Soldiers who come home and get reunited
with their loved ones, a sports(wo)man achieving his/her ultimate goal, the
birth of a (grand)child etc.
Every tear has got its own story. Although I'm not one
of those people who like to share my tears (and stories), I love it when others
(want to) share theirs with me.
All I want to say is that I know it's okay to cry. Just
because you don't see my tears, that doesn't mean that my heart doesn't cry. It
does: the sad and the happy tears!
Enough said... I'm headed outside to witness another
night of magnificent falling stars.
Love,
Bao-Nhi