15 November 2010

It's all about me, myself and I

Don't overdose your love for yourself!

Don’t worry, this isn’t a blog about how much I love myself. It’s about some people who seem to think that the world revolves around them. I’m not saying that these people are vain and love themselves more than anything, maybe it’s the exact opposite!

Do you know those type of people who always manage to turn a story around so that it’s about them? Like when you friend is telling about how he tripped off the stairs and this person immediately shares a story about falling off the stairs as well. Or the kind of people who need to express what they have accomplished so that you can (have to) compliment them. I know plenty of people around me who are like this. They don’t always do it intentionally, but it’s still annoying.

I have done some research about this in the past and a short outcome of it is that these kind of people were lacking attention at a certain point in their lives. They don’t mean to make the conversation about them, they just cannot help themselves. Of course, this is not always the case, some people just really love to be in the spotlight.

I'm pretty sure that the world revolves around everybody

For many of these people it is important to get recognition from their surroundings. They need that pad on the shoulder to feel good about themselves. There’s nothing wrong with this, but with some people it is so obvious that it just rubs me the wrong way.

I understand that not everybody is like me. I’m very social but not the most open person. I don't feel the need to share personal things because I know that it’s not always good to share everything. Sometimes less is more and it is always good to choose the right time and place to talk about yourself.

Make sure you draw a line between home and work

When you’re going through something difficult, it is hard not to let it affect you. Meet up with friends and share this with them. They will support you to get through it. Don’t go blab your problems to everybody you know, because sometimes it is nobody else their business. It might affect you at your work, but make a conscious decision who you’re sharing your problems with. Work is a professional place so try to stay professional at all times! If you cannot, stay home and gather your friends so that they can make you feel better.

Choose the right time, place and company before you share!

In the end my advice is to think about what you’re sharing with others. It is okay if you’re over the moon with yourself, but don’t over share your self-love with others and don’t continually fish for compliments. Realise that the world does not revolves around you and choose the right time, place and company to share certain information.

That’s my thought on this. Let me know what you think. You're more than welcome to disagree with me! ;-)

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